So you’re newly engaged (HELL YES CONGRATS YOU FOUND YOUR PERSON!!), but where do you even begin to start planning? Perhaps your mom has already sent over 1,000 ideas, but none of them seem to match your personality. How do you break through the noise and create a wedding that feels like it fits you and your partner’s style? I am here to give you a few places to start to discover your wedding style! From the venue, flowers, and even the invitations, each part of the wedding offers you a chance to let your personalities shine.

Below are some of my favorite DIY boho wedding styled details from Abby & Kipp’s wedding. To see more from their day check out this post!

First, start to look around your house!

What have you decorated it with? What color schemes have you chosen? There is a ton of personality in the way that we create our living space. A lot of ideas can be pulled from your living space, even if we can’t move your living room! For example, you could always use your rug if you’re a textile lover like me. Or is your house full of plants? Add succulents to your bouquet or table spreads. Even if you’re not pulling actual items from your house, you can pick from the color palettes that surround your home. Is your living room full of blue, grey, and white? Could you make a tablescape with that same color palette?

⁠⠀How adorable are these vintage books created in the bride and groom’s initials? I love how these added to the classic feel of their wedding, but with a unique twist. 

      Second, what are your values?

Do you value family, adventure, travel, decor, food? Make a list of the things that are the most important to you and work backward! A list of values can help you prioritize your budget. I’m in the midst of wedding planning myself and am dying to have a desert wedding. Not only for the color palettes, but because I love to travel and adventure, and I would love for my family and friends to experience those same things with me!

If you’ve never done values work check out this link here for a simple worksheet to start with!

I love that these two decided on bright bold colors, and ended their night with their favorite sweet… doughnuts! Who needs cake when you can have your own bride and groom doughnut??

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     Third, in discovering your wedding style who are your style icons?

     Are there certain people you always look to inspire your outfits? What about their style do you gravitate to? Can you make a list of adjectives that describe them, and could also possibly describe your wedding? I find sometimes it is easier for me to describe other people’s style than my own. If I am already following them chances are I am subconsciously emulating their style! Basically am I a combination of Maggie Rogers and JVN yet?

Don’t be afraid to choose something out of the standard wedding wear if something else calls to you more. I adore the straw hat and patterned skirt this bride chose for her day, unforgettable and personal!
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I love that Franca decided to wear a glamorous reception dress at her rustic wedding, proof that you don’t have to stay within one style! For more from Franca & Riley’s wedding check out this post here!

Fourth, are you passionate about something?

Is there something that you and your partner bonded over almost immediately? Something near and dear to both of your hearts? I love that Lindsey & Jeff created a Grateful Dead-themed wedding. Complete with Lindseys Mom’s wedding dress. Her dress added to the 60’s vibe and of course, the music was jamming all night.

     Lastly, once the planning process has begun and you’ve selected your venue you can really start to refine your wedding style. Have you chosen somewhere rustic? Classic? Or perhaps you’re doing a destination wedding in the desert or at the beach! You want your wedding decor to compliment where you’ve chosen to get married. The same decor that works well for a barn wedding won’t look as cohesive in a mansion wedding.

I love how these colors worked so well with the brick and white spaces in the Boulder Museum of Contemporary Art.

I hope that helps get you started on your way to discovering you’re personal wedding style!